read// Sun Shines Down Book Review


Sometimes, a book grips me so intensely that I cannot put it down. Such was the case with Gillian Marchenko’s new memoir, Sun Shine Down. Luckily, I was on a 10 hour road trip with my family on the way home from vacation, so I was able to sit on the passenger side with my Kindle and read to my heart’s content! (except for the 30 minutes I was sitting between the two captain’s chairs, on top of our dog, nursing Canaan. Don’t ask.)

Gillian and her husband Sergei had two daughters and then gave birth to their third, Polly. Polly’s story really resonated with me because not unlike Landon’s birth, Gillian and her husband were blindsided by a medical condition they were not expecting with the birth of their sweet baby. I was able to relate with her on the absolute shock of finding out that the baby I’d been carrying wasn’t perfectly healthy as I’d assumed.
Gillian is also a pastor’s wife, and like her I know the shame of being depressed after the birth of a baby. {although, ironically, my depression didn’t follow Landon’s birth but with another baby}. Unlike me, though, she and her husband Sergei were living and ministering in Sergei’s homeland of Ukraine when Polly was born, which made the difficult situation so much harder.
The story follow’s Gillian’s struggle with depression and subsequently, alcohol, and how God was able to redeem the relationship between not only Gillian and Sergei, but also between Gillian and baby Polly. 

Gillian Marchenko
Gillian and I both belong to a women’s blogger group and I was able to ask her a few questions about the book. I love how openly she is with sharing her story:


Why did you decide to write this story?

E. M. Forster said, “How can I know what I think till I see what I say?” I am a life-long journal keeper, but after the birth of my third daughter and her diagnosis of Down syndrome, writing became necessity. The first year of her life I wrestled a hallowing grief over the child I expected and the mother I was to become on the page.

My journaling delved deeper as my daughter grew. Images, situations, and details bobbed up to the surface of my conscious. A fear of brokenness; broken people, broken things, and ultimately, my own broken heart, had been tucked inside me since childhood. I wrote, and a thought nagged. Perhaps these words were meant to be read by others?
A memoir emerged.

You are a pastor’s wife. Was it difficult to share the hard parts? 

While I was writing, and throughout the process, no. But I have to be honest, once the book published, and my struggles and sins were out there for all to see, yes. In the beginning though, when my husband Sergei and I agreed I would mold my writing into a book, we also agreed I absolutely had to share the hard parts. Without hard parts, the good parts aren’t as good. Without darkness, the light is not as bright. Grace lives in the hard parts. 


Do you miss Ukraine? Will you ever go back to live there?

Yes, our whole family misses Ukraine. We would love to go back, but when Polly was around three years old she suffered a massive stroke and was diagnosed with a second syndrome called Moyamoya. She endured two brain surgeries and is doing phenomenally well. But chance of stroke is there, and so it is best for us to stay in the States. That said, if we hear from God and he tells us to go, we will listen. We also plan on short term trips, especially to facilitate seminars and support groups for families who choose to keep and raise their children with special needs in Ukraine.


What are you working on now? Will there be another book about your adoption?

{note from Kelli- isn’t this amazing? after their daughter was born with Ds, they also adopted a daughter with Ds!}

Right now, I am working on two projects. My agent is waiting on a book proposal and sample chapters about my personal struggle with depression as a pastor’s wife and a missionary. With this project, I hope to convey that just because people of faith struggle, it doesn’t mean they are not people of faith.
I also have about sixty pages of Evangeline’s (our adopted daughter with Down syndrome) story written. I do believe those who loved Polly’s story will one day (God willing) get to read Evangeline’s story as well.

What is the main takeaway of this book?

Goodness, tough question. What is the main takeaway? I think that depends on the reader. The essence of Sun Shine Down is this: I didn’t want my baby with Down syndrome, and now I can’t imagine life without her. The takeaway could be many things. I’ll let the reader decide their own takeaway.



Why did you share so many of your struggles in the book? 

Once the book published, and my struggles and sins were out there for all to see, it bothered me that people would know. But in the beginning of the project, when my husband Sergei and I agreed I would mold my writing into a book, we agreed I absolutely had to share the hard parts. I’m a person of faith. Without hard parts, the good parts aren’t as good. Without darkness, the light is not as bright. Those parts are where grace lives.    

What’s it like being an author, and a mother of four? 

Once I understood I was no longer writing journal entries (with a nod of approval from my husband Sergei and our children), time was carved out of the family schedule to write. I am fortunate to have a supportive spouse with a flexible work schedule.

I aim to write three days a week. I start at eight after the kids go to school and end at three o’clock when the children return. On writing days, I don’t do other things. No laundry, no errands. I am a mom, though. School assemblies and doctor appointments never fail to show up on scheduled writing days. With young children, I am thankful for what I get.

What are the joys of parenting kids with Down syndrome? 

Every milestone, no matter how small or big, is celebrated at our house. Polly is full of joy, and Evie’s smile can light up a room. My kids with Down syndrome (and my other two typically developing children) have taught me about kindness, trying hard, slowing down life, and being thankful for what we have. These were all lessons I still needed to learn in my thirties when Polly busted through.

You speak to groups about bridging the gap between families affected by special needs and others. Why? What is your message? 

I speak about bridging the gap between families affected by special needs and others because to put it bluntly, there is still often times a gap. My message is that communication and education is key. I talk about opening up conversations with friends and family who have kids with special needs, and about teaching our kids how to be good friends to individuals with special needs. I guess I just share my experience, and let people know that I have my foot in both camps of parenting The gap doesn’t have to be an abyss. 

You can buy Sun Shine Down here, or for Kindle here!
Find Gillian at www.gillianmarchenko.com, or on Facebook


Gillian Marchenko is an author and national speaker who lives in Chicago with her husband Sergei and four daughters. Her book, Sun Shine Down, a memoir, published with T. S. Poetry Press in the fall of 2013.
She writes and speaks about parenting kids with Down syndrome, faith, depression, imperfection, and adoption. Her work has appeared in numerous publications, including Chicago Parent, Thriving Family, Gifted for Leadership, Literary Mama, Today’s Christian Woman, MomSense Magazine, Charlottesville Family, EFCA Today, and the Tri-City Record.
Gillian says the world is full of people who seem to have it all together. She speaks for the rest of us.
Follow Gillian and her family at www.gillianmarchenko.com.

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